You lie to protect yourself. If you feel unsafe, you lie. Some of you will lie at work, so they look good and others may to lie to make people feel better. Politicians and teenage girls lie to be more popular and young children lie so they don’t get into trouble.
Humans lie because we are programmed to deceive our prey. Since our bodies are animals we have the R-complex which is the part of our brain that protects us with the fight, flight, freeze and hide response.
Your first reaction, when faced with possible attack or feelings of uneasiness, is to react with deception so you can stay safe.
Animals deceive their prey in the wild, like the butterfly that has wings that look like eyes, rabbits that blend in with the snow or brush. It’s part of life here on earth, we deceive to protect ourselves. Humans take this deception to a whole new level since we have a more complex psyche.
The fear you have will dictate how often and who you lie to. The bigger the fear the more likely you will be deceptive. You may deceive someone because you fear you may not fit in or be liked or so you won’t get in trouble or you hide a mistake you made. All these reasons come down to one thing, the fear of being kicked out of your tribe. Your tribe is your work, home, community, school, etc. You feel safer when you belong to a tribe.
It doesn’t matter if you lie to others, it only matters if you lie to yourself.